Powerful And Unpolished

 Good day everyone. Welcome to Powerful and Unpolished. I'm Tim Solomons, I'm your host. Welcome back to another solo episode. I keep saying I'm gonna have guests and I know I am gonna have guests, but right now I'm just, I. Playing out the solo thing right now. So we'll see where it goes, have some fun with it, and hopefully, stir up some thoughts for you, the listener.

'cause that's ultimately what this is about, is that this gives you something to think on, something to consider. That's really why we're putting this out there. And ironically, today we're going to be talking about the aspect of me on this. Podcast and putting my voice out into the world amongst billions of other noise out there.

So today the question that I wanna start off with is the. And its influence. Its influence came to me because of just witnessing all these different posts on different social media platforms. And the irony is recently the most recent pope just passed. So I don't know when you're listening to this podcast, but that's where we are.

So a lot of people are posting their thoughts, opinions about that. We recently had, somewhat changing a political environment. So people are posting about that and it's wow. It just jumps out as watching the human condition unfold, seeing how people really choose to engage or create space in their world.

It's an ironic type awareness. So the, from watching all these posts, all these different platforms, what's come to me is when you make a statement or when you take a stand, is that stand in judgment? Are you in judgment? Are you in righteousness over the opinion of whatever it is that you're sharing?

Or are you taking a stand? Sharing an awareness of maybe an assessment. And so for me, the judgment factor

is easier to pull apart. 'cause judgment itself is, I. Standing in judgment of a situation, standing in judgment of others. Doesn't that really put us on a pedestal? Doesn't that make us feel good? And how righteous we are and how we can identify what's wrong? And that my friends in my book is what I would call a power grab.

There's a section in there where we talk about power grabs and how people utilize and act and do these make choices. In their lives, in their opinions, in their judgments. And a judgment is oftentimes, most often a power grab. And the question that I wonder is when you stand in judgment and you stand on a higher level, 'cause we're all guilty of it, myself included, I'm not on any pedestal here.

I can look in the mirror and call myself out. And so the thing is it's like when we do stand in judgment and it is a power grab it's this kind of one-upmanship or pat on the back. I'm better than them. I'm better than this situation, whatever it is. The question often comes to me is, what is the need in that person?

There's obviously a need that they are reaching for. They are attempting to engage with this stand of judgment. This opinion of judgment is in a need because they identify with the weakness that's in them and they don't want to acknowledge it because when we do stand in judgment in the position of a power grab, we're trying to make up for something.

Whether you agree or not, look, go look in the mirror. You may not agree, but if we put FI 50 people around you to observe the situation and they objectively was considering the whole situation, they would probably see

The weakness or the situation that you're trying to make up for. So when we're around people who are standing in judgment, in righteousness. Oftentimes the reason why they're screaming that out into the world is 'cause they don't have the ability to look in the mirror and maybe consider it themselves.

Like when I stand in judgment I do it often. I don't really acknowledge it. I, and I think a lot of people don't do this, is they have this like emotional reaction. It feels good, but then they don't realize that it's like going, wait a minute, I. I'm getting something out of this standing in judgment and sharing this opinion, which takes me to the next sort of category that we're talking about is, someone who's in assessment.

An assessment is something that we can, we can look at it into the world and say, I don't agree with that. That doesn't work for me. That is not my. My path. That is not something for me to engage with. It's just not mine. But that's a personal kind of awareness for ourselves. We can set boundaries by it.

We don't have to cut people off at the knees. We don't have to throw out our opinions. And quite honestly, if you can do that in a humbled sense, you are a much stronger individual. You are a much stronger individual.

It's when we do the assessment. It is a personal thing, and then all of a sudden we decide to make it public. All of a sudden when we make it public now we're trying to, what's the need that other people need to know, oh, I'm a good person because this is my assessment. There's nothing wrong with having conversations and sharing that, those thoughts and ideas with people.

But it's being aware, it's growing deeper for yourself to get clear on, wow, do I sell out on myself? Where do I sell out on myself? When do I sell out on myself? Why do I sell out on myself? And there's probably a number of you going, who the hell's this guy telling me I'm selling out on myself?

Don't believe a word I say. I'm not here to convince you of anything. I really am not, but I'm also not gonna sit back and listen to people throwing out judgements left and right as if there it, I'm just gonna say there shit doesn't stink. It does. And so until you get really clear, we're all guilty of. The same infractions that we're throwing out at people, and for the people who think that they're not, we can have a long discussion and exploration around that because until we stand in our own power, until we honor ourselves enough to be able to look in the mirror and have.

A strong enough, I don't know if this is the right way to say it, but a strong enough awareness of ourselves so that we could call ourselves out, but also have grace for ourselves.

It's interesting, this takes me to. That's why I actually love doing this work and why I'm here to share and explore this with you. 'cause for those people who are akin to what I'm doing here and what we like to do here is to explore the possibility to really see the irony of life.

And one of the ironies of life is this. Like I said early on, it's like I'm here doing this podcast, putting more noise, more opinion, more stuff out into the world, and I am a huge advocate of, there's a reason why God or the creator, the universe, however you want to call it, there's a reason why they gave us two ears and one mouth, and I do struggle with the fact that I am contributing to the noise.

I'm trying not to make it be noise. I am really trying not to make it be noise for the people out there who are really open, willing to look in the mirror, willing to listen. I just wanna speak to those people. I want to be able to, let's converse, let build a community. Let's grow in. Stronger depth instead of this outward expression of toughness.

And which is usually just a facade, a fake facade is what it is. And when we're listening, are we listening? I. As a resource, are we listening to understand, are we listening from someone else's intention? Because I'll tell you, the listeners that are really listening to me right now, you know when somebody is standing in judgment, standing in opinion, standing in righteousness, you can almost see the weakness in that person and they just.

Get caught up in that emotional treadmill that keeps doubling down on that. And that's the power of listening. That's the power of when we know that listening isn't a debate tool. I'm listening so that I can get leverage and use it against you. No, but quite often that's what a lot of people are doing.

But for the quality individuals, the good listeners, the people who are striving to. Strengthen themselves, deepen their experience in this thing called life. There's so much more. There's so much more. The one thing about listening is.

When it is that debate tool, when it is that limited resource that people, are just listening to respond rather than listening to understand or empathize. They're using the, and I use air quotes here, they're using their, it's for relating. They're relating. It's like modern day listening has morphed into.

How do I listen to use it as a debate tool or to use it to get my leverage so that I can influence the algorithms and if I manipulate the algorithms, then look at what I've accomplished. Aren't I success? It's wow. It's really cool. You can get that strategic and involved, but it's often missing a real heart.

It's often missing a real soul.

Maybe that's why the energy of when people are so emotional and in reaction and go in that direction, because reaction is a weaker energy than action, but people get on this reaction and they just feed off of it and they go, and I'm relating and I'm an influence in the algorithms and I'm, and it's yeah, good for you.

Maybe it's not a bad strategy, but. Where then in your world do you truly tap into the real heart, to the real soul of who you are, of what you're here to create, of what you're here to connect? Or are you here to connect? Are you here to disconnect and manipulate? I don't know. Most of our listeners who really like to consider this information recognize those games of power plays.

They don't engage with them.

See the thing about these power plays and the thing about, manipulating the algorithms so much and look at my success and look what I've accomplished. And it's it's really heady. It says a lot in the head. It's and the fact that it's this sort of heady concept is. Maybe that's another reason why so many people are so stressed out.

They can't even have conversations with people who don't agree with them. They're so full of anxiety. There's, they lack so much trust. Oh, I, I can't trust this person. And it's and it just, the list of all these different stress, anxiety, lack of trust, on and on. It just goes on.

And we then as a collective, as a culture, it's a reflection of the lost skill of self-reflection, the lost skill of being able to look at ourselves, have empathy in ourselves, have empathy in others. If you look at someone else and they're not your cup of tea and it doesn't work for you, then fine. That's okay. Set your boundaries, but it doesn't mean you have to call them out, make them feel shameful and try to steal their energetic life force or whatever you're trying to do.

And maybe it's not a conscious thing you're trying to do, but subconsciously that's where we've gone to.

And who we are as individuals, who we are as a collective is full of potential. It's full of power and love and opportunity. But there's oftentimes, do you ever notice that? Do you ever notice that? A lot of times these manipulating the algorithm choices or people who are in leadership, societal or cultural leadership they like to talk constantly. You can see this in politics. I don't care what side you're on. I'm not, I don't care about your side. I really don't. I'm not on sides.

I'm not four sides. But when you look at politics. It's man, they will take one subject matter. And oftentimes it's one that if you did a statistic on it and you can almost see this when you step back and you look at it it's sad, but it's ironic. They will take something that maybe affects 5% of the population.

But they blow it up. They manipulate it, they conflate it into this. Oh, the, you, everybody, we're all dealing with this, oh wait, this is a, the bane of our existence and we're gonna stop that. And it's like they take this thing that maybe 3%, 5% of the population, and they blow it up as if it's 80 or 90%.

And the reason why I bring this up is. This is why it is so important for us to have a relationship with that person in the mirror because it's so easy to manipulate you when you don't know or have connection, and I'm talking real heart and soul connection, not this heady stuff. When you don't have real heart and soul connection with that person in the mirror, you are so easily manipulated.

You become part of the algorithm. We've all become part of the algorithm. We've all participated in it in one form or fashion at some point in our life.

The whole purpose of sharing this idea, this podcast, is just to start bringing out ideas so that we can actually look at that person in the mirror. Have some empathy and care for that person in the mirror, have some strength to call that person out in the mirror. I love you enough. Don't do this bs. It's below you.

It devalues you. And when the manipulators come along, when you stand in your truth, you have enough trust in yourself. They're gonna do everything to manipulate you anyway. It's when it goes back to that classic quote, don't get in an argument with an idiot. They'll bring you down to their level and beat you with their experience.

Same thing. These people who are working, the algorithms who are strategic, who are really they will try to hook you left and right. Not everything is black and white. Actually, most everything is multiple. Multiple options. But they wanna get you in a right, wrong, yes, no black or white conversation because then you're so much more easily manipulatable because you need to play within the lines. You need to play within the boundaries. And if you're not, then we're gonna do power grabs on you and either guilt you into falling in line or rail against you.

And it's just, this is all just something to consider. It's just the question that I ask would ask you this challenge that I would throw out to you because really what we're about in this work is who are you as the individual, the uniqueness that you came into this world to be, because that's really who we want to get to know.

That's really who. I think we value and who you as an individual should value for yourself. And it's quite honestly a lot easier said than done. I get it. It's not easy. It can be scary, especially when a lot of people haven't had a relationship with that person in the mirror other than brushing their teeth or combing their hair or put on their makeup or whatever it is.

The other aspect of the power grab is it goes all directions. Like part of when people do manipulate for strategy, for manipulation, for their own edification or results, whatever, it's, there's also the other aspect of people who are justifying it every step along the way. That's a power grab too.

Playing a victim is a power grab. Because at some point any of these individuals have pulled that card. They have manipulated. It's part of that human condition that we're living into. Question is who do you wanna be for yourself? Who do you wanna be? And I'm talking about authentically be not. What people tell themselves on social media and put out into the world and all this grand glorious stuff that you just don't feel, you're just not feeling it from 'em.

So one of the things that I'm adding into the podcast and it's to bring in some lyrics. I think I've done this once or twice before, but it's to bring in some lyrics from song because I think that nature is a reflection. Art is a reflection. Music is a reflection. There's so much that reflects back to us to help us deepen and grow ourselves into the possibility of who we are.

But it's up to us to stand in and to own that growth. It's up to us, not necessarily to do it, to prove it to the world around us, but to learn to love it in ourselves. So the song that I brought out that we're gonna go through the lyrics real quick. Is, it's by the Eagles, and it came out 1994. So what, 31 years ago?

So this song was produced, created, released 31 years ago. And it's one that always is near and dear to me because it helps me keep me in check, but at the same time. I also stand in my own little judgment at times and righteousness and kind of go, oh yeah, right? Remember, I can judge outward, but I can also judge inward.

But even the judging going, no, no matter what direction, outward or inward, is a power grab. And it weakens. It weakens them out there. It weakens us in here. So what this lyric I strive to do is it helps me. To stay in assessment and it helps me to realize that other people have the opportunity to be in assessment, whether they are or not, but the song is called Get Over It by the Eagles, and the lyrics are Turn on the tube.

What do I see? A whole lot of people crying, don't blame me. They point their crooked little fingers at everybody else. Spending all their time feeling sorry about themselves, victim of this, victim of that. Your mom is too thin, your daddy's too fat. Get over it. All this whining, crying, pitch in a fit.

Get over it. You say you haven't been the same since you had your little crash. You might feel better if they give you some cash. The more I think about it, old Billy was right, let's kill all the lawyers. Kill them tonight. Don't wanna work. You wanna live like a king, but the big bad world doesn't owe you a thing.

Get over it. Get over it. If you don't wanna play, then you might as well split. Get over it. It is like going to confession. Every time I hear you speak, you're making the most out of your losing streak. Some call it sick, but I call it weak. Yeah. You drag it around like a ball and chain. You wallow in the guilt.

You wallow in the pain. Wave it like a flag. Wear it like a crown. Got your mind in the gutter, bringing everybody down. Complain about the present. Complain about the present. Blame it on the past. I'd like to find your inner child and kick its little ass. Get over it. Get over it. All this bitching and moaning and pitching a fit.

Get over it. Get over it. It's gotta stop sometime, so why don't you quit? Get over it. So that's the GIZ to the lyrics. It's got a great beat to it. It is. Got a great rhythm and everything good vibe through the whole thing. It really has, brings a lot of energy to it, which I think is awesome.

I think not only does it call out people out there, it also calls us out. The one thing that stood out in the lyrics amongst a lot of 'em, but the one thing that really stood out was where is it? You don't wanna work. You wanna live like a king, but the big bad world doesn't owe you a thing.

And then there's the other part where, what is it? It's it's this one. It's it's like going to confession every time I hear you speak. How many of you out there are listening? Have that friend. Maybe they're not friends anymore, but maybe you had a friend or you have a friend or a family member or a cousin or aunt and uncle or whoever.

Every time you see them, it's the poor me. It's the need of, oh, let me tell you how bad it is. And it's that energy grab, it's that power grab. And odds are, they're not consciously realizing that they're choosing to do it. Some of them probably are. A lot of them, it's such a pattern in their life.

It's such an energetic state of being that they're so comfortable with it. They wouldn't know who they were without it.

And that's why having this podcast, having these thoughts, having these discussions, exploring these dynamic relationships so that we can be more authentic, so that we can be more in the conversation. That's really what the purpose of the this podcast is. I hope it helps the people who are really open and willing to play with it, to explore it, to listen to it for their own development, for their own growth, for their own self-expression, because whoever's listening to this right now, you deserve.

To be respected, but you deserve to respect yourself first and foremost, and for other people to respect you. It starts with you. It doesn't start with them. 'cause even if they don't respect you, as long as you do respect you.

Then you can have an assessment of the situation, move on to the next person, the next situation That does truly have value for who you are. It's the opportunity of this walk on this planet that we get at this time in our lives. I. Because we're all here right now. What else are we gonna do? No. And there's a lot we can do.

We can keep manipulating the algorithms and patting ourselves on the back and how good we are and stuff like this. And it's like going, yeah, but, I just hunger for that deeper heart connection, that deeper soul connection, that deeper awareness of self-respect and respect for others. So hope you found this entertaining.

If nothing else but it's something to consider. And, check this out. The book that I often refer to as my book just released a couple months ago. Inner Wisdom Outer Impact, leading Your Life from the inside out. You can pick it up on Amazon. Draft to digital. There's multiple different platforms that you can find the book on.

Inner wisdom, outer impact, leading your life from the inside out. Our website is Insights for Choice. And the reason why I give you all of this is that's really what our emphasis and focus is how do we help honor ourselves and honor individuals who wanna honor themselves? There's so much in this world that's about taking.

We really wanna be a part of the giving, and we wanna be a part of the healthy giving to make sure that it is reciprocal, that there is value exchange, that there is consideration for each other in all aspects of this life and this path that we share together. So if you like this, if you found this interesting, please share it with your family, your friends.

Hit the like button, give us a review. Who knows? We're just gonna keep playing with this until we're done. And we won't be done for quite a while. So we're just gonna keep playing with that said. I wish you all the standing of power and strength of being in assessment so you can honor yourself on a personal level and value yourself in the awarenesses of what works for you and what doesn't, and let go of what doesn't.

It's not yours and it doesn't need to be judgment for someone else. Until next time, I wish you all the best. Cheers.